Did you miss me?
Wears: Shirt (thrifted, originally from TeeFury), skirt (thrifted), shoes (Chelsee Girl)
Listens: Courtney Barnett – Pedestrian at Best (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-nr1nNC3ds)
Wears: Jacket, skirt, tank, loafers (all thrifted), necklace (American Eagle).
Listens: Girlpool – Ideal World (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3eWIbzAI50)
My career history has been anything but linear. I’ve flipped, I’ve flopped, I’ve changed my mind more times than I can count. I used to feel really guilty and embarrassed about this. I feared other people thought I was flighty, all-over-the-place, a mess. However, the more I read and the more people I meet, the more I realize it’s quite common to change your career path. I bet if I surveyed all of the people in my graduating class, the majority would reveal that their career history has been as disorderly as mine. It’s normal not to be what you wanted to be at age 8, 16, 24, 32 etc. It’s okay, even healthy, to change your mind. When we think about careers, we often think in permanent terms: “what do I want to do for the rest of my life?” What if we changed this question to appreciate the fact that people change, and that’s okay? What if instead we asked: “what do I want to do right now?” and when the answer changed, what if we didn’t feel bad about it? Just a thought.
Wears: Head scarf, coat, and oxfords (all thrifted), black denim (Yoga Jeans), socks (Target).
Listens: Broncho – Class Historian (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to-nZLV794g)
I used to have a little side blog called, “Wears and Listens.” It was a corner of the internet where I posted an outfit photo alongside a favourite song that also happened to match what was going on in my life at that particular moment. While I really loved “Wears and Listens,” managing two blogs was just too much work for me. So here’s my compromise: instead of a separate site, I’m going to start incorporating fashion and music posts right here on the bar and bean. Everybody cool with that? Alright. Let’s go!
Wears: dress, jacket, loafers all thrifted
Listens: Matt and Kim – Let’s Go (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mJsVCi0UsSM)
I, like many others out there, have spent years inspecting and criticizing every inch of my body. My forehead is too big. My skin is too bumpy. My calves are too chunky. I even criticize my body when it is in pain (talk about kicking her when she’s down). I’d have a headache or a cold or sore knees and all I could think about was how defective and weak my body is. How wimpy and pathetic a body I have! I will admit, I have been incredibly cruel to my body. I have been destructive and nasty. I have said things to her I would never say to anyone else in a million years. And throughout it all my body would only say in reply, “I still love you.” You see, you can hate your body all you want, but your body will always love you. No matter how mean you are to her she will still try to clot your cuts, nourish you, and even try to keep you cool on hot days. She will try to get rid of the toxic stuff you don’t need, and she will try her damndest to heal you. Your body wants you to survive. She’s an optimist. Even when you are calling her trash, or treating her terribly, she will try, try, try. My body is my biggest fan. If she was a soccer mom she’d be the one at the game with face painted and a huge poster saying, “You can do it!” If I fail a test or do something I’m not proud of, she’s still there plugging away for me. Our bodies may be the only true source of unconditional love out there. So, maybe, let’s show our bodies some love now and then. Treat her to a nice meal. Take your vitamins. Get a good night’s rest. Or at least stop berating her for a day. Remember: Your body loves you, even when you don’t love her.